SBisms™: The Intentional Series Vol. 1
How would I describe the dating world right now for the average woman in her mid/late twenties? Hmmm. It’s like your wig falling off in the middle of a dancefloor at a house party. In front of your crush. And the girl who reported you to Pastor for not covering your arms in church and got you kicked off the ushering team. Who coincidentally is dating your crush. Which you find out as the three of you watch your Peruvian bundles making a break for freedom across the room. WILD.
Dating is not called the Jungle for nothing. And the issue is
not so much navigating through the landmines to meet a great guy, as most of us
have a FBI agent-friend worth their weight in Instataps and LinkedIn navigation
(wildlings wears suits too; quote me).
It’s more.. well, it’s that, sometimes, stepping on the landmines seems
the better option because at least they give a reaction. Not that anyone wants to come and kill
themselves, God forbid. But the lack of
chat/honesty/ability to build a relationship has grown exponentially in recent
years and a somewhat-young G is tiyad.
Of course, I’m still hopeful. I fully subscribe to the belief that not all
men are the same, would post up with ‘Black Men Don’t Cheat’ all up on my
shirt-shirt-shirt. However, bearded baes, professional poobears, sexy
singleboos, the ladies and I have conferred and we’re going to help you
out. Not that I can put it all on the
men. Ladies, it’s time we have a virtual
group chat too.
These were the 3 things I promised myself I do when I finally
decided to write #TheIntentionalSeries (follow on Instagram!). All jokes aside, over my years of dating and conversations, most especially in the last year, there are tangible gems I’ve learnt and want to share. Intentional is a word I’ve been praying on since the beginning of this
year. However, it was the 3 practical
steps to being intentional, shared by @londonfellowship, which really brought it
home.
My main aim? To contribute to a new
conversation which simply keeps it 100%.
Keeps us in constant understanding and accountable for our actions. Because in whatever form it takes, we all
deserve true happiness and peace but we firstly hold the ability to make that happen.
So over the next 4 posts, I’ll be looking at some of the
issues we face whilst dating, putting my own Sarahism spin and storytelling on
it. I hope you laugh, you may even cry but, most of all, I want those who are single and reading this to know: you’re not
alone in your experiences. All opinions
and interactions are welcome; follow me on @lifewithoutspanxs and let’s get a
discussion going!
SB xx
CLICK HERE FOR VOL 2 OF THE INTENTIONAL SERIES: The Importance of Chemistry
CLICK HERE FOR VOL 3 OF THE INTENTIONAL SERIES: Making The First Move
CLICK HERE FOR VOL 2 OF THE INTENTIONAL SERIES: The Importance of Chemistry
CLICK HERE FOR VOL 3 OF THE INTENTIONAL SERIES: Making The First Move
CLICK HERE FOR VOL 4 OF THE INTENTIONAL SERIES: The 101 (the basics of dating)
CLICK HERE FOR VOL 5 OF THE INTENTIONAL SERIES: Everyday is Therapy (dealing with heartbreak and going to therapy)
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